I have a friend, very passive agressive. She blam...

2012-01-27T21:47:41.442-05:00

I have a friend, very passive agressive. She blames the teacher, and anyone about her son's poor behavior. We watch him and his younger bro and sis. My son has literally turned into an angry young man with him around. Still no job, so I cant tell my sister to stop watching them (once I get a solid job, she is going to bounce them since I will be paying her again), the twins birthday is next friday. Logan flat out said he does not want Nic over that day. The boy needs to be tested, he has adhd or something, but his behavior chart states it all. The mother gives every reason she cant, co-pay, no time. That is the backstory.

I am taking the twins and the two little ones (one is 5 and both twins like her, the other boy is 3 1/2 and turning into his older brother since the parents, do not parent). She text back, oh ok, but Nic wil be disappointed.... I had to hold back saying, your son is rude, inappropriate, does not listen and suffers horribly from impulse control, gets very physical w his siblings and twice w my son, nobody likes him, but I am an adult and know better. Three of the four going are in pre-k so its 2 1/2 hours and her son would miss school (the teacher would cheer, but he needs to be in full attendance or he will fall behind) and worse ruin the good time. He is 6 1/2 and slowly being segragated from school parties etc. Face it, parents talk.

I dont feel bad. And Neither should you. Your kids need a break from the RAD and you do too. You did not cause it, but you have to deal with it, like we do him. They are dropped off at 745 and unless i put them in my car and pick the mother up (father seems to always have to work late) we will have them till 645 at night. I put her three kids in my car and get her at 6. Two sets of car DVD players have been damaged (lucky I have a warrenty) and a third will not be put in while they are in the car. Not fair when I take twins to a friends house or on a visit, they do not get to watch it.

You do a lot for all of your children. If she cant handle it, you did the correct thing. I dont want to take the 3 1/2 yr old either as he is not potty trained and also gets aggressive but i will be on him. He also suffers from anxiety when around large groups, if he is an issue, my sister will come get him quick. If my nephews friends come over he hides under the tables, if they have a party at their house, again he hides under the table. But I think the bounce house will be good for him.

I read your posts and I think you are doing the best you can with the tools you have. But I also am making a choice for my children, not to take the boy who will ruin my twins special turning five day.

Just to give you a quick Idea, mother nukes pizza rolls for dinner, has an all access junk draw and allows juice like it is water. Not here. We limit and restrict. When I drop them off the first one at the door is the youngest and I can see him run to the draw! Sister and I almost pee'd on the face down ass up in the draw comment I said.

Thanks for letting me rant lol. But you do an excellent job. When she is older hopefully Kenzie (my daughters name too!) will realize what you did, done and continue to do. Lesser people would have returned her but you are a good mother. Sometimes parenting sucks and they never put this stuff in the handbook. We try to limit her kids. Her last sitter allowed them anything they wanted and we had to deprogram the kids. We discuss with the teacher about Nic. But the mother and father do little to nothing. I prey for employment soon to have piece in the house. We hate the morning till drop off and love when we drop the daughter off because we insist on a nap for the 3 1/2 year old. and loathe picking him up. But we treat him with respect.

Again thanks for the friday night rant.

The looks on the faces of Sean and Mickey while bo...

2012-01-21T11:55:20.870-05:00

The looks on the faces of Sean and Mickey while bouncing are priceless. Sometimes you have to do these things for the sake of other kids in the family. My oldest has anxiety and I do worry about how much the little guy is taking in. I can see the look on his face when we are stressed over things. Sending hugs to you.

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