Comments on Our Life Upstate: Attachment and Bonding

Sounds like you are doing great. Methods are not m...

2010-02-27T21:03:59.585-05:00

Sounds like you are doing great. Methods are not meant to cause us guilt when they don't work or we can't manage them. We've been home 7 months and Grace is doing great attaching and bonding and we see new small signs almost everyday. And, i don't carry or wear her much since i have a back and neck problems. And she loves to sleep alone in her own bed and has since day 1. She spends time alone in her playpen and loves it. Sometimes, not crying when you leave the room and not clinging to you are wonderful signs of security.

I think there's always a balance between the theor...

2010-02-26T23:23:43.044-05:00

I think there's always a balance between the theory and the practice, especially when you are dealing with actual human beings! Elfe rejected a lot of the attachment stuff I tried in the beginning - normal toddler independence plus used to having to do things for herself - but now she trusts me more and is actually kind of regressing on her own. It sounds like you are doing just fine!

It's so great to read something like this. Why? Be...

2010-02-26T15:13:11.988-05:00

It's so great to read something like this. Why? Because my husband and I want to adopt a child from the foster care system sometime in the near future. I'm going to need to remember things like this as we get adjusted, I'm sure. Thanks for sharing!

All of your babies are gorgeous! I don't know much...

2010-02-25T20:52:59.507-05:00

All of your babies are gorgeous! I don't know much about adoption, but I would think that any child who has a mother as concerned and caring as you is very blessed.

Thanks for stopping by my blog! Like a lot of the ...

2010-02-25T20:27:03.838-05:00

Thanks for stopping by my blog! Like a lot of the other comments...just wanna say keep up the good work. Sometimes things don't always go as we planned them in our heads, and we just have to go with our "mommy" instincts to take care of our little ones. Sounds like you are doing a great job of that! :)

Great points! I think she is bonding with you just...

2010-02-25T16:16:30.915-05:00

Great points! I think she is bonding with you just fine. Keep on doing what you are doing. I wouldn't worry too much. You are doing the right thing.

Hi! Thanks for stopping by to see my pictures. I j...

2010-02-25T15:56:04.660-05:00

Hi! Thanks for stopping by to see my pictures. I just read the above post. Isn't worrying what us moms do the best! :) I'm glad you are cutting yourself some slack. I have similar thoughts on different issues...its just because we want what is best for our kids. The fact that you are trying to be intentional about giving her your attention shows that you are such a loving mommy and she will be fantastic and I think friendly kids are great!

She is super adorable!:) Happy end of the week!

Not knowing anything about the subject first hand,...

2010-02-25T14:47:18.584-05:00

Not knowing anything about the subject first hand, having not adopted, I do think it sounds like you are handling things quite well. I know with my kids book reading and real life application were not always one in the same... you sometimes have to alter your plans a bit to fit your family and you seem to be doing that well and I think your family is blessed to have you as mommy!

Thanks for the comment over at mine. :) The little...

2010-02-25T13:15:52.280-05:00

Thanks for the comment over at mine. :) The little baby sister is so lucky to have a patient and kind mother like you to love and take care of her.

Have a great week!

I think you did great! I would also advise you to ...

2010-02-25T12:25:15.346-05:00

I think you did great! I would also advise you to have more faith in yourself! "bonding" is something Little Sister will do, just by hearing your voice most of her 24 hours a day. You would be her constant, so she would bond.
And Big Sister did perfectly as ... big sister. All my girls pull the "I want you now, because you have her!" what a lovely family!
I'm glad I stopped by :)
Joe.

Thanks for stopping by and commenting! You have a ...

2010-02-25T03:25:50.243-05:00

Thanks for stopping by and commenting! You have a beautiful family;-) I have no advice on attachment and bonding, but as overwhelmed as you are, you're doing a great job!

Fabulous post. Bonding like everything else is ind...

2010-02-25T01:25:06.308-05:00

Fabulous post. Bonding like everything else is individual. Figure out what works for you and her. It sounds like you are well on your way.

OMG she is absolutely gorgeous! She looks just lik...

2010-02-25T01:06:10.646-05:00

OMG she is absolutely gorgeous! She looks just like a little baby doll that I had once! Awww how lucky you are to have each other!

She is adorable! With that smile, I can tell she ...

2010-02-24T23:55:12.593-05:00

She is adorable! With that smile, I can tell she feels comfortable with you!

What a great post. These are things I haven't had ...

2010-02-24T22:56:59.966-05:00

What a great post. These are things I haven't had to worry about, but sometimes I think we tend to worry a little too much!

She looks happy and healthy and I am sure she loves you all!

Great post! I'm "stealing" it for a future IAN Fa...

2010-02-24T22:41:53.293-05:00

Great post! I'm "stealing" it for a future IAN Families blog post if you don't mind... ;)

-Carey

Hugs, it will all work out.

2010-02-24T22:06:11.475-05:00

Hugs, it will all work out.

Thank you for stopping by my blog tonight and leav...

2010-02-24T21:42:27.584-05:00

Thank you for stopping by my blog tonight and leaving a comment. i love to meet new friends. Your family is beautiful and little sis is adorable and looks very happy and very attached. What a precious time for your family.