It started out with Sean having to help Mickey a lot.
But once they got their groove there was jumping and bouncing.
The best part of the bouncing is the falling!
Mickey made a friend. A boy friend. Check out here flirty girl smile at him!
Deanna chilled in our Ergo but when she got down this was the face she offered Sean.
Seeing these two have fun together was the very best part!
Did I feel guilty? Yes .... and no. It was good for them and I was glad to be doing something that was good for them. It felt "wrong" to be doing something without her. On purpose. Just for the sake of doing it without her. But it was needed. The hard part was seeing how easy life could be. Seeing how much easier it was to keep Mickey from melting down. To see how easily both of the other kids took not getting what they wanted. I had said no to plenty of requests. The hardest part, though, was what happened when we picked Kenzie up. Well, really I saw a small change in Mikaela as soon as I said it was almost time to go get her. Nothing major. She was a little whinnier. Asked me to stop and sit and give her a few extra hugs and kisses. But at the time I did not even notice it. I might not have ever realized it if Sean hadn't had the incident he did. The whole drive to go get her everyone was quiet. That's not unusual. I am not a big talker while I am driving so they were just hanging out. As soon as I put Makenzie in the car Sean had a complete melt down. Crying, over the top, completely incapable of handling anything. He just fell apart. And really did not calm down until he and I were able to spend sometime snuggling on the couch after we got home. That was so hard to see. The stress in him was so hard to see.
The looks on the faces of Sean and Mickey while bouncing are priceless. Sometimes you have to do these things for the sake of other kids in the family. My oldest has anxiety and I do worry about how much the little guy is taking in. I can see the look on his face when we are stressed over things. Sending hugs to you.
ReplyDeleteI have a friend, very passive agressive. She blames the teacher, and anyone about her son's poor behavior. We watch him and his younger bro and sis. My son has literally turned into an angry young man with him around. Still no job, so I cant tell my sister to stop watching them (once I get a solid job, she is going to bounce them since I will be paying her again), the twins birthday is next friday. Logan flat out said he does not want Nic over that day. The boy needs to be tested, he has adhd or something, but his behavior chart states it all. The mother gives every reason she cant, co-pay, no time. That is the backstory.
ReplyDeleteI am taking the twins and the two little ones (one is 5 and both twins like her, the other boy is 3 1/2 and turning into his older brother since the parents, do not parent). She text back, oh ok, but Nic wil be disappointed.... I had to hold back saying, your son is rude, inappropriate, does not listen and suffers horribly from impulse control, gets very physical w his siblings and twice w my son, nobody likes him, but I am an adult and know better. Three of the four going are in pre-k so its 2 1/2 hours and her son would miss school (the teacher would cheer, but he needs to be in full attendance or he will fall behind) and worse ruin the good time. He is 6 1/2 and slowly being segragated from school parties etc. Face it, parents talk.
I dont feel bad. And Neither should you. Your kids need a break from the RAD and you do too. You did not cause it, but you have to deal with it, like we do him. They are dropped off at 745 and unless i put them in my car and pick the mother up (father seems to always have to work late) we will have them till 645 at night. I put her three kids in my car and get her at 6. Two sets of car DVD players have been damaged (lucky I have a warrenty) and a third will not be put in while they are in the car. Not fair when I take twins to a friends house or on a visit, they do not get to watch it.
You do a lot for all of your children. If she cant handle it, you did the correct thing. I dont want to take the 3 1/2 yr old either as he is not potty trained and also gets aggressive but i will be on him. He also suffers from anxiety when around large groups, if he is an issue, my sister will come get him quick. If my nephews friends come over he hides under the tables, if they have a party at their house, again he hides under the table. But I think the bounce house will be good for him.
I read your posts and I think you are doing the best you can with the tools you have. But I also am making a choice for my children, not to take the boy who will ruin my twins special turning five day.
Just to give you a quick Idea, mother nukes pizza rolls for dinner, has an all access junk draw and allows juice like it is water. Not here. We limit and restrict. When I drop them off the first one at the door is the youngest and I can see him run to the draw! Sister and I almost pee'd on the face down ass up in the draw comment I said.
Thanks for letting me rant lol. But you do an excellent job. When she is older hopefully Kenzie (my daughters name too!) will realize what you did, done and continue to do. Lesser people would have returned her but you are a good mother. Sometimes parenting sucks and they never put this stuff in the handbook. We try to limit her kids. Her last sitter allowed them anything they wanted and we had to deprogram the kids. We discuss with the teacher about Nic. But the mother and father do little to nothing. I prey for employment soon to have piece in the house. We hate the morning till drop off and love when we drop the daughter off because we insist on a nap for the 3 1/2 year old. and loathe picking him up. But we treat him with respect.
Again thanks for the friday night rant.