Time For Yourself

So, this afternoon Hubby and I were talking a little about how things are not okay. We were talking about how it is kind of like the spark is missing. As if that extra thing that takes you from happy to exuberant is missing. Hubby said this to me as he was cleaning up and getting dinner ready. Big Sister was crying and asking for something. Little Sister was crawling around and kind of in the way. Big Brother was playing and off and on fighting with Big Sister. There was music playing in the other room. It was fairly loud. But then again that is fairly typical,

Hubby, who pretty much hates when it is loud (as opposed to me who is most comfortable in loud), starts listing all the things he has to do for the rest of the night. He seems to get more and more frustrated as he lists the things that he has to do. All of a sudden he turns around and says , "You know what? The problem is neither of us get anytime to ourselves." And instantly I know that this is at least a huge part of the problem.

And so my Aloha Friday question for you this week is how do you find time for yourself?
Posted on 8/05/2010 Labels: ,

5 Comments:

  1. Since we just got home a few months ago we don't get out together a lot although we do try about once a month. What we do MUCH more often is that my husband and I will each take one evening after dinner and just leave the other parent in charge of bedtime that night. It's such a relief to just have some time away. Also on Saturdays we'll alternate someone going on and doing something fun with our oldest son and the other staying home with the babies.
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  2. Like Jamey, we take one night off (alternating Thursdays for us) - the at home parent manages everthing at home that evening, and the other parent gets out of the house, and does whatever they want.
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  3. I plan ahead, let everyone know and then I go and do it. See a movie, visit with friends. Whatever. For my husband, I make the arrangements for him myself. Because he just doesn't know how. Timely, reading this. I just sent him off for a massage today. He's been so stressed out with our house having not sold yet that I couldn't stand it anymore. It was a big splurge for sure. But well worth the smile on his face later.
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  4. We used to be so good (well, at least better than now) at scheduling every Thurs. night for ourselves out as a couple and I had almost every Tues. night to myself. Then a couple moves happened, life got chaotic, we added a new child to the family...I am CRAVING some alone time! I'm hoping that you can have some time to yourself...
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  5. Being a single parent it is extra hard to get in a little "me time". ButI do what I can, I go out with my friends for Ladies Night Out once a month. For a long time we kept saying that we need to get together more but everyone was always busy. Finally we just decided to plan on a specific night each month, the second Thursday of the month. Now that it is a standing date, we all plan on it and show up. I also go on scrapbooking weekends about 4 times per year. We meet at facility and all scrapbook together. Usually 2 are in town (meaning we go home at night to sleep and take care of kids) and two are out of town. I look forward to these things SO much! I hope you find something you like to do. Maybe a book club to get you out of the house one evening a month?
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