The Things We Do Not Share

How much is too much? How much do we share? Do we share it all? Do we share our deepest, darkest secrets? Do we share them here? In this open forum for everyone to see? Do we share them in some obscure part of the internet where no one we know reads? Maybe not. Maybe the internet is not the place for our deepest darkest secrets. Maybe those things need to be shared in a more private, controlled environment.

So do we share them with our friends? Do we share them with our family? Do we share them with our parents? Our children? Maybe not. Maybe we cannot let these people in. Maybe these people are the reason to not share our secrets on the internet at all. Maybe these people are the ones we fear will know the truth about us. Maybe these people, the ones closest to us are the ones we are hiding from.

Do we share with our spouse? Ah and there is the question. There is the determination. The determination of who we are and what we are hiding. Do we share our deepest darkest secrets with the one we love the most. Maybe we do not. Maybe we hide it even from them. Maybe some secrets we keep only to ourselves. But then again maybe we do tell and they love us anyway. Maybe we do share and they are the ones who see through the pain and help us make it back to a more pleasant reality. Maybe we share these secrets with this one person who knows us better than we even know ourselves.

Does that make them not so secret anymore? Does that make it okay that we hide these things from the rest of the world? Does letting our spouse really know us - and all of our secrets - make us okay? Does that mean we are not really hiding? Does it mean we are not really alone? Does it mean that we simply know who to tell what and when to keep quiet? Maybe. But then again maybe not.
Posted on 2/28/2010 Labels:

5 Comments:

  1. oh absolutely. I share EVERYTHING with my husband, but no one else. I share a fair amount on my anonymous blog/twitter, but my "real" one not as much. I think you have to make choices, and what you put out there, especially on the internet, you have to know it can come back to haunt you.
    ReplyDelete
  2. I often fantasize about setting up an anonymous blog where I can say anything I want and not have to worry about anyone I know reading it knowing it is me. I share everything with my husband except my ever-present lurking fear about the state of our marriage. I talk about it a bit, but when nothing changes to fix things I have to let it go so I can get by. I find I tend to be most honest in other people's comment boxes. Like here. You know where I am and how to find me but no one else who I know knows I was here, so this is my secret hiding place for sharing my innermost thoughts.
    ReplyDelete
  3. I tell my husband everything. I think it is important to keep the lines of communication open between spouses. However I don't share everything about myself and my life on my blog. Starting an anonymous blog and posting life details does sound tempting, but I don't think I will do that.

    Thanks for stopping by Healthy Moms!
    ReplyDelete
  4. I've toyed with the idea of an anonymous blog. I find myself censoring things on my blog all the time. My in-laws read, so I can't write about how frustrated they make me. My friends read, so I can't write about decisions I don't agree with. The list goes on.

    I tell my husband and 1 very good friend most things. I say most things because I'm sure that there are things I haven't told them, but most big things we talk about.

    My blog, my FB, my Twitter, however, they are always written with a sense of protection.
    ReplyDelete
  5. Great topic and question! It is one I've been considering a lot lately, since I just started blogging a few DAYS ago :) Do I blog about my fusterations with my ex-husband? What if his grandma, with whom I still have a great relationship reads it? I will continue thinging about this topic, thanks!
    ReplyDelete

Thanks for your kind words! I love hearing from you.

Subscribe to: Post Comments (Atom)