So, as a lot of you know we accepted a referral for a baby girl yesterday. We were really excited. We called all of our family. Texted everyone we know. Jumped up and down, shared our joy with everyone we know. We are still really excited - Little Sister's picture is on the fridge, we tell everyone we see about her. We are very anxious to go pick her up. We seriously cannot wait to go get her. As soon as we can we will go. That seems obvious to you doesn't it?
Well, apparently it is not obvious to GrandpaI. When Hubby was on the phone with him (ya know in the hey - it's a girl conversation) he asked Hubby if we would be able to put off going. Since we said we would (hopefully) be traveling in August he wanted to know if we could just put off going until Hubby is done with the summer session. To which Hubby responded, "Well, would you?"
I mean really. Why in the world would we want to wait. We simply cannot wait to get our hands on our precious little baby. We do not want to wait one more second than we have to go pick her up. The moment we are told we can we will be on that plane (ALL of us - but that is a rant for another day). We will not wait - not even so that Hubby does not have to miss work. This is too important - a week's worth of missed work is okay. Family is more important. I am just so floored that he would even suggest such a thing. But I guess it is his wife that bought me The Bracelet (let's see how long it takes her to get the charms, shall we?).
So, what I am tackling is letting it go. Not saying anything. Not starting a fight. When I was in the early days of my relationship with Hubby and his parents I would have said something. One time I even called his mom and had a very calm, rational discussion about how she treated me and how I felt and she said, "Yes, but that's because I do not want you and Hubby together." So, now I know there is no talking to her. To them. I just need to let it go. So, that is the thing I managed to do so far and the thing I will continue to tackle. Not picking up the phone and letting them have it.
To see what other people are tackling (probably less ranty too) visit 5minutesformom.
Well, apparently it is not obvious to GrandpaI. When Hubby was on the phone with him (ya know in the hey - it's a girl conversation) he asked Hubby if we would be able to put off going. Since we said we would (hopefully) be traveling in August he wanted to know if we could just put off going until Hubby is done with the summer session. To which Hubby responded, "Well, would you?"
I mean really. Why in the world would we want to wait. We simply cannot wait to get our hands on our precious little baby. We do not want to wait one more second than we have to go pick her up. The moment we are told we can we will be on that plane (ALL of us - but that is a rant for another day). We will not wait - not even so that Hubby does not have to miss work. This is too important - a week's worth of missed work is okay. Family is more important. I am just so floored that he would even suggest such a thing. But I guess it is his wife that bought me The Bracelet (let's see how long it takes her to get the charms, shall we?).
So, what I am tackling is letting it go. Not saying anything. Not starting a fight. When I was in the early days of my relationship with Hubby and his parents I would have said something. One time I even called his mom and had a very calm, rational discussion about how she treated me and how I felt and she said, "Yes, but that's because I do not want you and Hubby together." So, now I know there is no talking to her. To them. I just need to let it go. So, that is the thing I managed to do so far and the thing I will continue to tackle. Not picking up the phone and letting them have it.
To see what other people are tackling (probably less ranty too) visit 5minutesformom.
Letting go is important. Congrats on your baby girl!
ReplyDeleteCheck out my tackle:
http://adamandkrisi.blogspot.com/2009/06/tackle-it-tuesday.html
Honestly, a lot of people just don't "get it". Adoption, that is. They don't realize the immense bond we feel from just seeing a picture. In 'letting it go' remember to realize that it is their ignorance that is keeping them from enjoying all there is in your blessed moment. Don't let anyone drag you down. This is about you, and you know how special this is.
ReplyDeleteWhat I have found in my almost 46 years of life is, it is almost impossible to understand people. Most of the time there is something completely different going on in their heads, i.e., actions, words, and thoughts rarely mesh. Keep your thoughts focused on your happy news.
ReplyDeleteLetting go is exactly what you have to with people like that. If not it will just eat you up inside and this is one of the most happy times in your life. Congratulations on the upcoming homecoming our your new little one!!!
ReplyDeletePeople just don't get it do they? Would they ask if you could hold off on giving birth till Hubby was done with summer session? DUH!!! My guess is that they don't understand adoption or the intense bond you feel with your baby, even though you've never met her. Congrats again on your new little girl and I can't wait to see your first family pictures!
ReplyDeleteWhen someone doesn't get it, sometimes all you have left to do is let it go.
ReplyDeleteHow awesome. I didn't realize you got your referral. Yay!!!
ReplyDeleteI think you are doing the right thing too.
Ugh, try not to let them get under your skin. I know it is hard, believe me I do. I still remember two very hurtful things that my out-laws said about me. Let's just say they are very lucky to even see my children.
ReplyDeleteSending lots of hugs and prayers that you get to bring home Little Sister soon.
Congrats on the baby girl that you will finally be bring home soon. Just keep your eye on the prize and forget everything else. :)
ReplyDeleteCongrats on your baby girl! Have a great day!
ReplyDeleteSo if you were in labor would you have to just hold your legs closed until later for hubbys job?????? I mean some ppl just need to be smacked upside the head!
ReplyDeleteI don't think it is right! He needs to be excited for you guys, and not try and bring you down or MAKE YOU WAIT! This is your baby girl we are talking about... just try to shrug off what he has said and just say a prayer about it!
ReplyDeleteCongrats on the baby girl!!! :-)
ugh! :/
ReplyDeleteGood for you for being the bigger person. I don't get along with my in-laws either, and I'm not as good at showing restraint!
ReplyDeleteUgh, sounds like my relationship with my hubbys mom. She declared I wasn't her son's idea trophy wife in a lengthy and insulting email several years back. I know how you must feel and yes letting go is important.
ReplyDeleteWhat is even better is just not letting it get to you in the first place. It is all much easier said than done though. Hugs to you and yay on the new little one.
its really hard to let go when people so entirely don't understand you and the things that matter the most in your life that they have to inject their own priorities into their views of your life. i know it's hard to deal with people who are so very disconnected with the things that matter, but yay that you are a brilliant woman who knows that blogging it out is a much healthier avenue than conflict. score one for personal restraint.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations on your new addition to your family! I bet you are really excited.
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